What to start with?

I thought that since I already have the inktense and coffee, just not everything I need, perhaps, we can just get started, and then finish up once we have the rest.  If you missed my last post, I talked out what I wanted to accomplish for this project.  I want to spread compassion by collecting stories from every minority group possible.  So I will need your help with this.  I will also need your help figuring out which group to start with.  I haven’t quite decided how I’m going to put it all together yet until it’s in a book, so I’d love any ideas you have.  One idea I have is to put each set in a PDF for now.

First let’s define a minority group before we decide.  A group who has significantly less control or power over their lives than the dominant group.  They typically have distinguishing physical or cultural traits, no choice in their minority status, awareness of their “lesser” status and bonding with other members, and a high number of marriage within their group.  We could probably expand this definition, but I think we should probably keep it sort for the purposes of this post.

Here are some minority groups that we could start with.  These are predominately ones from the US just because that’s where I live and where most people I interact with live.  Racial minorities are those classified by physical traits such as skin color; Black, Native American, Asian, Hawaiian.  Cultural and ethnic minorities are classified by things such as language, food, and traditions; Hispanic or Latino, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Jewish (not all Jews are religious).  Ethnic minorities can vary from location, so this one can be hard to list.  For gender minorities, men are the social majority while women are the social minority.  I wasn’t sure which group to put LGBTQ in since it’s such a wide group, but I think perhaps gender might work.  Religious minorities are those who have a religion other than the dominant; Muslim, Jewish, Amish, Mormon, Hinduism, Buddhism, Shikhism, Atheism.

Obviously, I left out some.  It’s impossible to list every single one.  We’d be here too long.  I think this a good start.  As we start this journey together, I doubt everything will be perfect.  It would be nice to believe it will be, but that’s not realistic.  If we’re to have a large group of people from various backgrounds, then there are likely to be hurt feelings at some point.  I believe that most people aren’t intentionally trying to hurt another.  So if you’ve found something that rubs you wrong, I suggest the following format:  Explain what the other person did or said that upset you and how it made you feel without throwing insults, because that will immediately make them defensive, and they will stop listening.  You want them to listen and understand, so help them to.  For the other person:  If someone comes to you with something, listen to their feelings.  We don’t have to agree with each other to treat each other kindly and with respect.  Apologize for the offense, because I doubt you meant to hurt them, and ask how they would like you to respond to them in the future, and do your best to speak to them that way going forward.

I’d like to know what group you’d like to start with, and if there’s another one you’d like to add, please let me know.  I’d be happy to.  Just leave a comment below with reason as why that group would be classified as a minority group.

To make it easy, I did this voting box.  That way, you can vote without having to actually leave a comment.  Once voting is done, I’ll get started on the project.  I mostly just want to know what stories I can get.  If we have more than one with some large numbers, then maybe I randomly choose one by picking one out of a hat or something.



Project Compassion

This election cycle has brought up many emotions for many people.  Here’s what happened for me.  As usual, candidates came up that one liked, and we all complained about having no one to vote for, but let’s be honest.  We say this every year.  However, as things went on, they became more intense, but it didn’t just become about who was the right person for the job, but about who was evil.  What I found most disturbing was the rise in White Supremacist and other hate groups, and while it’s true that these groups come in waves, a large group of Americans appeared to be apathetic.  We watched these crowds surround the Trump rallies and shower their support for him and wondered what our future would be.

As we shared our stories, it seemed as if no one listened, besides those of us who felt this way.  Our experiences and feelings were cast aside because, we’re just liberals, even though not all of us were, and since Hillary is so much worse, everything else is waved aside.  I could list incident after incident, but none of them matter.  No one listened when we shared them.  We also tried telling people about the rise in incidents, but no one cared about that either, because we will always have racism and hate.  The number of incidents rose to almost an unbearable level. Thankfully, it seems to be dying down, but yes, I will most likely always have a security guard with a taser or some weapon at the entrances to my synagogue during holidays, but hopefully that will be the extent and will remain a good deterrent.

After sharing my experiences, as well as other whom I’m friends or acquainted with, and was met with silence, or other comments I don’t wish to share.  I stopped sharing.  I didn’t see the point.  I started to think about why it had to be this way.  Why is it that people don’t listen?  Why is it that we have to have racism, and bigotry, and hate?  Why does always have to be here?  I don’t want it here, and I know plenty of other people who don’t either.  So how do we fix it?  Many people say combat it with love, but that alone hasn’t worked yet.

Stories.  If we can somehow collect stories.  Maybe that can work.  Stories have the ability to evoke great emotion, and if someone can read another’s story of pain, perhaps it will evoke compassion.  Maybe that compassion could be what helps erase this hatred that we all wish didn’t exist.

If we can put all these stories into a book and then distribute it, maybe we could could spread compassion.  So, as you can see, I need more than just money to accomplish this.  I need your help to share this with others.  The more others know about it, the more stories we can collect. We will also be able to have a variety people from various backgrounds and viewpoints.

I want this to be collaborative, so I welcome any ideas.  Just please know that it’s impossible to execute every possible idea.  I also want this to remain a positive and safe place for people to share their experiences.  Any hurtful comments will be deleted.

I set up this page, because I do need certain supplies to do the artwork and create the book.  Any amount you can contribute would certainly help, and if you can’t, no worries.  There many other things you can do, such as sharing this post, sharing a story you have when relevant, and creating your own environment of compassion.